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ParentFuel desires to help parents break free from generational cycles of trauma giving them the freedom to be who they are created to be. Parenting is hard, so the less baggage that we bring with us on the journey, the easier it will become. ParentFuel is building a community of parents who you can share the journey with. A journey with friends is much more enjoyable than on your own.

Throughout the website there are plenty of free resources to get you started on your journey. So why not dive in?

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In a world that feels more and more culturally-driven, Parent Fuel aims to equip parents to feel confident to become spiritual leaders in their own homes. Parent Fuel also aims to equip church leaders in how to intentionally reach out to families of all shapes and sizes, in their own communities with the Gospel.

We do this through writing, speaking, resources and courses and our social media presence.

Have a read through our blogs. We hope that some of these stories resonate with your own and give you courage to raise a Spiritually rich family.

Tomorrow marks the start of Lent. This is a time where Christians will often give up something from fasting from food to giving up comforts like TV or social media. For many of us, it gives more space and time to reflect on God's love and grace.
ParentFuel is in a time of transition where we are really having to seek the Lord. Therefore, Lent is an opportune time for us to press the pause button on social media and spend time praying.
We have got so many exciting plans including applying to become a charity, thanks to our amazing new board of trustees. But more of that when we reinvest time back into social media.
Never be afraid to press the pause button - refresh and reset. The world will wait, but spending time with God who promises to give us rest is time well spent.
Know that we are praying for each one of you.
Dawn
#lent #parentfuel #rest #parents

A little over a year ago I wrote this parody and then a year ago today I annoyed everyone in the house (including me) by editing it. We've come along way since the days of editing on Inshot! Enjoy the bloopers 😆

If you have a child suffering from toxic stress for whatever reason, here is one way that you can help reduce it.

Part of my job with Reach is to take photos for social media posts, but today was crazy busy! The only photo I managed to take today was of the ice on my car before I defrosted it to get to work.
I LOVE that it was busy.
I LOVE that we get to work alongside families who really need friendship, food, and fun.
Please keep praying for the whole Reach team and the families that we work with.

It is the start of a New Year. What do you do with your day? We like to look back but also look forward to the year ahead. I like to be intentional with the year that we are walking into. 2025 will probably throw us a few curveballs that we aren't expecting, but we can plan adventure. So we make a plan, in our PJs still eating Christmas chocolate and promising to maybe walk later if the rain stops!
What will your 2025 look like?

We are in a new house this year so we thought we'd try the viral shower pole garland. We loved spending time together to shop and put it together. Yes the pole did fall down twice whilst we were decorating it. But we love how it turned out
#fyp #garland #christmas #parentfuel #parents #bandm

Last weekend, we took time out to invest in us. Building up a solid relationship between us both is so important as we continue to parent our children; and being a blended family means that a strong partnership is even more important. We took time to do things that we love to do. This last weekend it was all about gazing at the stars and marvelling at things that God has made. What a weekend. I wonder what you do to invest in each other.

I am working hard on the final shaping of these three courses which will launch early next year.
These are perfect to run for parents at your church groups or even as an outreach for your local community.
Funding may be available for you to run the courses for FREE in your area.
Please drop us a message at hello@parentfuel.co.uk for more information.

Next week our UK schools open again. Why not say a simple backpack prayer over your child this weekend and into next week. The Bible is full of God's promises and here are just a few for you.
#backtoschool #backpackprayers #BackToSchoolSunday #newstart

Have you heard our radio interview with @premierradio yet? @parentfuel was looking at how we can have a great summer with our children without breaking the bank.

Parents be needing another holiday after their holiday!

I've had a beautiful week off work and off social media, spending some much needed time with my family on our holibobs.

When I switched back on to social media on Saturday my heart was so saddened to see Christians fighting about issues that the Olympics had highlighted. Don't get me wrong, the world is a not very nice place at the moment and it does make me really sad.

But what makes me sadder is hearing Christians arguing different theological points in a public arena. So instead of pointing people to Jesus, we are putting people off ever finding The One who loves them deeply and has a purpose and a plan. As Christians we know the ending....spoiler alert....Jesus wins.

This is a wonderful quote from a book called The Benedict Option.

"Could it be that the best way to fight the flood is to...stop fighting the flood? That is, to quit piling up sandbags and to build an ark in which to shelter until the water recedes and we can put our feet on dry land again? Rather than wasting energy and resources fighting unwinnable political battles, we should instead work on building communities, institutions, and networks of resistance that can outwit, outlast, and eventually overcome the occupation."

ParentFuel will never be political just for likes and views. I am all about building strong families who know the Lord and want to journey closer with Him as a family.

Don't get mad at the kids this summer. Give yourself a dance break instead

There is nothing better than a bike ride through the forest

This is one of the articles that I wrote a while ago for Premier NexGen. With the 6 weeks summer holidays coming up we need adventure with our families more than ever.

The table is one of the primary places where family formation happens. It doesn't have to be big. It's often messy with books and clothes piled over it. But it's a place where we have a few rules. No phones. Everything that is talked about at the table stays within the family unless otherwise agreed. And no need to rush.
Even if you don't have a physical table, you can start to spend intentional time with your family. Turn off the TV. Put down the phones. Engage in conversation. Start small...what was the best/worst thing you've done that day. Investing time in building a strong family is worth those few awkward starting moments.

My social media pages are full of prom photos. My own daughter had her prom last night. The room was filled with lots of giggling girls in beautiful dresses, perfect hair, make-up, nails, and tans, trying to walk in their heels.

But as I stood in the middle of my daughters friends wine cellar whilst the parents stood sipping on prosecco and specially imported wine, I wondered yet again how the UK got to this state of affairs during prom season. The place we were last night seemed to be a display of wealth rather than a place where deep friendships had been formed. In our area, only the most wealthiest of households would hold a pre - and post prom party.

Prom season brings in big money to the beauty industry. Hair, nails, make-up, spray tans, dresses, suits, shoes, underwear, perfume, handbags, jewellery, transport....it all costs! Can we say no to this as parents? Of course we can. But does that mean denying our children the opportunity to make memories?

Of course, it can all be done on a budget. But the pressure from society to want more than we can afford, and to have an 'instaworthy' night is weighted with heaviness. One mum commented that there was more effort that had gone into the prom than her own upcoming wedding.

I may sound like I'm moaning, and I know that not all proms are like this around the country, but the societal pressure is the same for us all. And I have no easy answer to it either, other than intentional parenting.

Intentional parenting helps a child see what a difference they can make to fight injustices and imbalances in the world. Parents do this through intentional conversations about the affairs of the world. Through showing kindness to a stranger. Through visiting extended family often. Through forming deep friendships with people along the way. Through guiding our children to make good choices in life and allowing them to make mistakes, but then guiding them through the aftermath of a bad choice. There is so much that we can do as parents to intentionally parent our children.

So I urge you as parents of younger children, be intentional. Intentionally disconnect with the virtual world and instead reconnect.

If God is real, why is there suffering in the world?
New video on our YouTube channel @parentfuel
https://youtu.be/MjvB9L4o4Ro?si=lX8iB7WPxVJPVY5S

Walking as a family is one of the best places for family and individual development. The conversations that you can have without distractions, like phones and gaming systems, are incredible. Don't use the excuse of they are too young to walk. Mine have been strapped to my back or side, held in my arms and pulled along by a bike. When they were old enough to toddle, we started GeoCaching to help increase those distances.

We've walked short distances and long ones. We've had serious conversations, silly talks, and arguments about which way to go and when to stop for lunch. But we've grown as a family who are able to listen to each other, be empathic, and learn a few skills along the way.

I wonder what you do to grow as a family?

We have been having lots of conversations about politics in our house lately. I now have two children or voting age, one of whom this will be his first election. I've always taught them the importance of voting.

The Bible tells us that there is no one is power who God hasn't already placed there (Romans 13:1). We know that those who don't believe are walking in the dark and so politicians, like us, are not perfect. But we are called by God to pray for our leaders, especially our politicians.

I love this quote by Rod Dreher. We live in a broken world where we get to be salt and light. Walking without God is like using a torch without batteries.

So pray. Read about the different parties. There aren't just two of them. I read on a forum today that if we decide to vote tactically to stop the government from getting in that we don't want, we'll never get the government that we do want. If you are unsure of where to look, Christian Concern has some great resources on their website.

Teach your children how to talk about politics, how to pray for our politicians, and how to use their vote.

June sees the end of the academic year for me as well. I chose to invest in myself and others whilst going deeper into the Bible and studying apologetics and evangelism with OCCA. What a life changing year it has been. Not only has my library grown bigger, but my knowledge and love for the Lord. It's helped enrich some of the things that I already knew and opened up a whole new world of things that I've never thought about. I can't wait to share some of those things with you all over the coming months.

Investing in your relationship with God is one of the best things you can do. And it doesn't need to be through a course. It can be daily reading your Bible. A prayerful life, really asking God to speak to you. Daily devotionals that you can get through the YouVersion Bible app. Whatever you choose to do, I challenge you to go deeper.

Today can be such a hard day for so many reasons. Maybe you've had an absent father. An abusive father. Your Dad might be suffering for an illness. Or this might be the first Father's Day without him. Whatever your emotions are like today, remember, our feelings tell us how we are not WHO we are. Or rather WHO we belong to.

If you are struggling with an abusive past I hope that this blog might help you on this day.

https://www.parentfuel.co.uk/post/how-to-you-honour-an-abusive-parent

I got married earlier this month! It has been a whirlwind 🥰

We are on Premier Christian Radio with Maria tomorrow (April 2nd) at 11am. We will be talking about how church communities and church leaders can be more supportive of solo parents and more aware of the unique needs they have. A great conversation to have ❤️

I've been 'off the grid' for a while now. Sometimes life just gets so busy that our full attention has to go elsewhere for a time.

I attended a wonderful seminar where Diane Langberg was the speaker. She has been working with trauma victims for over 50 years now and she is so wise in this area. One of the things that she said really resonated with me and I know that it will resonate with some of you. How can you detect a wolf: someone who has come to seek, kill and destroy? And how to you recognise those in the places that we have declared the safest? Our churches; our families; our homes?

Jesus said that you will know them by the fruit they bear (Matthew 7:15-20). Fruit doesn't come overnight. It takes time to grow and ripen. If after years of saying sorry your abuser is still showing signs of rotten fruit, it is time to cut that vine off you and walk free. Believe me, it can hurt, especially when it comes to relationships that were once close.

Jesus was once asked how many times should I forgive. He response was 77 times...in other words, an uncountable number. Yes forgive. But if the fruit isn't showing, pray for them and walk away. Their veneers will eventually fade and when they stand before Jesus he will not recognise them. Salvation comes from a deep and real relationship with Jesus, not good works and a shiny exterior.

If any of this has affected you, please feel free to DM me so that I can stand in prayer with you.

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